I have spent years, even recently, questioning my actions, my REactions and my opinions. And the conclusion I have come to is that sometimes all of the above are the rational 'me' and sometimes they aren't. You see, anxiety is formidable. Sometimes we cannot distinguish from our real selves and our 'anxiety selves'. Sometimes we are 'all rolled into one' and anxiety becomes an unwelcome, uninvited part of who we are, which manifests and effects our decision making, our relationships, our daily lives, our social lives, the way we deal with things. Sometimes it makes us choose between doing and not doing. Achieving and not achieving. Still with me?
Sometimes it makes us give up. Sometimes it makes us retaliate in a way that we wouldn't under 'normal' circumstances. It rarely spurs us on to be productive with intent.
But it doesn't have to be that way.
If you aren't following, I have a made up scenario for you to help you make sense of this.
A footballer has an important match. He's one of the key players. He has an accident one day before the match injuring his leg. But he doesn't seek medical attention. He thinks that left alone, his leg will heal itself. The consequences of him not seeking medical attention are dire. He cannot play in the match. His team loses and are now relegated. No-one understands why he didn't get help from the medics. His leg did not heal correctly which had a knock-on affect for his career in football. He cannot participate anymore and can now only observe from the side-lines. His career is over! If only he had sought out the right help.
You are the footballer. Anxiety is the injury. Random, I know, but can you see the domino effect?
When we have anxiety, we must seek out the right help. Help can be in the form of medicine, counselling, other talking therapies, holistic, self-help books and courses, diet, exercise or a combination of any of the aforementioned - but most of all - we MUST reach out to those who we love and who love us. They are our team. Sometimes we just cannot do this by ourselves and that is OK. It takes courage to ask for help and I am here to tell you that if you haven't, DO IT.
Anxiety is responsible for a lot of scenario's that have happened in my life. Just because we are not trembling, it does not mean that it is not there. But it also does not mean that if we react badly, we can use anxiety as an excuse. What it does mean, is that when anxiety is present, it has an impact on our rational brains. It makes us do or say things that we wouldn't ordinarily. (with the exception of heinous crimes!!)
I have been subject to being told to 'pull my socks up' on numerous occasions. If it was that easy, wouldn't we have done it sooner?
Anyway, the moral of this post is to make you aware that anxiety surely IS to blame for a lot of your actions and reactions. And the only way we can eliminate that part of our false personality is to seek help.
I have recently discovered a program which I am going to share it with you at the end of this post. I have researched this until I am content with the subjects covered, the promise of becoming anxiety free and value for money. The program is brought to you by a guy called Edward Golding who is an ex-anxiety sufferer himself.
According to the BBC (UK) prescriptions for anti depressants have risen by 97%! (See full report here https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-41125009 ) That's massive!
I, for one do not want to make up a part of these statistics and I'm pretty sure you don't either.
Here is a brief description of the program I'm talking about:
You encounter a stress situation and your chest feels tight. Your stomach is churning and you feel dizzy and nauseous. It feels like you are going to faint, or even die. At that moment in time the only thing you can focus on is breathing and staying conscious.
This experience is a way of life for many, a paralyzing, crippling condition that has a significant impact on how they live their lives, in constant fear of experiencing another panic attack, and wondering when it will happen.
Edward Golding is author of "Panic & Anxiety Gone," and a former anxiety and panic attack sufferer, but looking at him now you would never guess. No more sweating, trembling, gulping and shallow breathing, Edward is a changed man. Sick of being reliant on drugs and having to deal with their side-effects, he researched and discovered a better way of managing and overcoming the anxiety that was crippling his life. Looking at him now you would never guess he was the same guy that only a few years ago had a very real social phobia that nearly prevented him from finishing college.
The internet hosts a number of so-called experts, claiming that their new patented method will work wonders for your anxiety disorder, but very few can deliver on the promise in the way that Edward can.
So what makes his product different?
Well the first thing is that he doesn't promise to fix your anxiety issues in one step. If our lives were designed to be that simple, anxiety attacks wouldn't affect 40 million people. Edward takes his anxiety and panic attack research a lot further than others and has created a holistic 4-Step System to stop panic in its tracks as well as prevent future attacks. It's innovative, thorough, and brilliant!
People are complex beings and Edward recognizes that. A method that may work for one person isn't guaranteed to have the same effect on the next person. Why is that? It's because we are all different. The things that trigger one person's panic attack are quite different for the next. So why should we believe that one method, technique, or mantra is going to be a magic cure-all for everyone?It isn't.
Edward Golding has developed a holistic 4-step system that takes into account a whole range of recommended methods and techniques, and takes you through surviving your panic attack as it is happening, as well as making lifestyle changes and setting action plans and methods in place that will stop anxiety attacks from occurring again. That's what I really liked about "Panic and Anxiety Gone," it helps you through the panic attack and then helps you make changes to your lifestyle and management of anxiety in your life.
"Panic & Anxiety Gone" examines why you are feeling anxious and exactly what it means. That's really reassuring. One of the most scary parts of anxiety is not understanding why it is happening. Edward does a great job of breaking it all down and explaining what it's all about. Next, he looks at panic attacks and ways of diagnosing one. There are actually a number of conditions that mimic the same symptoms of panic attacks, and it helps to know what they are!
Edward then deals with the panic attack itself and ways to get through it. He has created a 10-Point Panic Prevention Plan that is invaluable in helping you get through a panic attack with as little distress as possible. It's great stuff and really addresses the root of your panic attack and how to survive it. The third step in Edward's system is eliminating anxiety for good. This is where this book really comes into its own. He identifies predispositions to anxiety, triggers, lifestyle factors, and a 5-point Anxiety Management Plan that addresses key factors like diet, exercise, relaxation techniques and much more. Step 4 looks at examining your options for professional medical care, and demystifies the process by examining what options are available and what is involved in a formal diagnosis.
This would have to be the most thorough look at anxiety and management of panic attacks that I have seen. I was truly impressed and I know you will be too.
Let's face it, anxiety is all around us and the most effective method is in finding new ways to manage and live with it, processing it in a positive way instead of letting it build up and trigger another attack. Edward Golding's "Panic & Anxiety Gone" is a must-have for anyone serious about eliminating anxiety attacks and changing their life for the better."
Now, I will be honest and upfront and tell you that this is an affiliate link - I am promoting this course on behalf of Edward Golding. If you choose to purchase, I will get a small commission. But it means that I am helping you by signposting you, you get the benefit of a completely digital program to help you manage anxiety and to STOP anxiety from 'making you do it!' Plus Edward offers free bonus material too!
Have a look and see if its for you here
I hope this post has helped you see that anxiety does make you do a lot. And that you really shouldn't beat yourself up. Help is there. You just have to take the necessary steps to become the best version of you.
Lots of love as always