Updated: Apr 13, 2020
1. Trying to please everyone.
It's true. Being a people pleaser is hard work. It takes a lot of time, dedication and energy. The fact is, you cannot please everyone. And that's something we have to live with. So why are we spending so much of our brain power to do it? Surely we would be better off channeling that energy into pleasing ourselves? (Ahem.. Get your mind out of the gutter!) But seriously, not everyone will like us. Not everyone will agree with our opinions, our work ethic, our core values. So what is the point in trying to be an all round people pleaser? Its counter productive to our mental health. It's time to quit!
2. Living in the past.
Look, the past is the past. Unless we are Michael J Fox in Back to the Future, we ain't gonna change it! Period! Whatever has happened, has happened. Yes it has shaped us into who we are but not all of it has to. The past doesn't exist solely to make us feel bad about ourselves. The past is a lesson that we were learning at the time and yet we didn't know it. But now we do. Its down to us to choose what we let go of and what we learn from. So stop reliving it. It's gone. It's time to quit!
3. Fearing change.
Coming from someone (erm.. me!) who has had to adapt to change for most of my adult life, I think I've done a pretty good job already. So this one may not apply to me as much as it does you. Change is good. Change is an opportunity to grow, to evolve, to offer new challenges. It's there to be embraced. Yes it can heighten feelings of anxiety but that doesn't mean we shouldn't do it. Honestly, there's nothing to be scared of. So next time change comes a-knocking, welcome it. With open arms. You'll be glad you did. Stop fearing it. It's time to quit!
4. Stop caring what people think
If we all cared what each other thought, we'd all be quivering wrecks. Anxiety can make us need reassurance and positive feedback from all sorts of people in our lives. The truth is, not everyone is going to have the same opinion, are they? You know I'm right. As long as we are happy with what we've chosen to wear or how we have our hair or the type of job we have or the type of partner we want to share our lives with, then in the grand scheme of things, what does it matter what other people think? It's great to have an opinion and it's even greater to be blessed with approval but it's not a neccessity in order to validate our personal choice. It's time to quit!
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